A good friend of mine (in brown) and I (in yellow) went to a farmers market yesterday - she is due in 2 weeks and is very clearly pregnant. I, however, am not pregnant.

We’re waiting for our coffee at this cute little shop and this middle aged woman looked at us and said “aww how sweet you guys are due so close together.” I was immediately in shock and just said “oop welp I’m not pregnant” and she does “oh I’m so sorry it must be your dress!” I just grabbed my little girl who was toddling around and walked away so fast - I was honestly reeling in humiliation. Surrounded by dozens of people all of the sudden I felt like the most hideous troll in the place and everyone was staring at me. Im sure they weren’t but the immediate mental assault was staggering.

I’ve had a really hard time losing weight postpartum (had a c section that left me with an apron belly) and was feeling really cute in this dress. Which just made it so much worse.

I have actually lost weight recently and fitting into a cute summer dress and feeling good about myself. Just to be told by a stranger I looked 9 months pregnant. It shattered my self confidence and honestly I just put on a brave face and laughed it off and walked through the rest of the market but deep down I was dying. I don’t typically struggle with too much insecurity because I know comparison is the thief of happiness and genuinely try to be present and positive for my little girl but man… I ugly cried and sobbed the whole way home in the car.

My sweet friend was furious and apologized over and over for not saying something back to the lady but I think we were both just in shock - how can you expect to be told something like that?? Of course it wasn’t her fault.

I’m adding a picture of what we both looked like. I just can’t believe a woman would ever assume something so sensitive. Am I overreacting???

EDIT: I cannot believe all these amazing comments….I can’t even catch them all before more come in. Thank you to everyone for your honest feedback. And to everyone who is sharing their cringiest gaffes…. You have totally turned the tides on how I feel about this experience. I have been crying laughing for the last hour. THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE 🫶🫶🫶

Guy on dating app I’ve been talking to for a bit but haven’t gone out with yet. I think the screenshots are self-explanatory, but not even a casual “oh, sorry to hear that”?? Oh they want me to write more to get up to a specified word limit. Well, I think he sucks, how about that.

UPDATE: I wrote “I’m sorry, we’re not compatible. Take care and good luck” he wrote “that is strange”